Catching up is a good thing

This is like the second day in a row that I've slept til noon. Granted, my back is generally hurting a little bit when I wake, but my head and the rest of my body are living in the lap of luxury. As I'm sitting here posting, my wife is making me an egg sandwich and the kids are playing Finding Nemo on the Xbox.

Game plan today:

• Eat breakfast while I blog.
• Ask my wife to get me a glass of water (She can be rather thoughtless).
• Read the last half of The Novel and the Obscene.
• Find something on JSTOR for Shakespeare.
• Skim through In Our Time. I read it a few months ago, and I just want to refresh myself.
• Watch Mavs/Suns at 2:30. Should be a good game.
• Is there a Lit/Lang reception tonight? I don't really know where it is or what time, though. Since I have yet to attend one, now might be a good time to start. Or not.
• Laundry. Hey, I'm a forward-thinking man trying to help free my wife from societal expectations. Besides, she's going to be cleaning the bathrooms today, and I don't do that shit.
• Bug Andi some more (she's beginning to hate me, I think) about pics. Later in the week, I'll harass her some more about the WC website.
  

Now a few comments about postcolonialism:
There has been a question raised concerning why people would want to marry, etc. outside of their own ethnic background. Personally, I am married to a woman of the same race, though the ethnicities are a bit different (I come from a primarily Irish line, while hers is Russian). I did not purposely pick someone of my own race, however, in my world, when I look around, it is impossible not to notice that it is dominated by white women (population-wise, of course). That being said, it is obvious that most white men are going to wind up with white women--the sheer majority in our population practically insures it. On the other hand, my wife has argued that I have a certain attraction to Hispanic women--whether or not this is true, I don't know. I have dated them in the past. But to say they would rank above any other group would be a misleading statement. Every ethnic group has features which set them apart from others, things which people might find appealing. Perhaps it is the skin tone, or the eye color, or the hair color, or build--all of these things are genetically determined. Personally, I don't have a particular favorite, though there may be some things I like less than others. Needless to say, I would not expect these things to play an integral part in the choosing of a mate. But at the same time, if I were dropped in the middle of Beijing, the odds that I were to marry someone Chinese would escalate tremendously. (FYI: The odds of me marrying a woman, however, would likely stay about the same.)

I guess what I'm attempting to argue, though I seem more preoccupied with rambling, is that I would disagree that white men would pursue women of other ethnicities just to say "been there, done that," or that, at least, it may not be the primary reason for most people. If a man were to marry an Asian woman because of preconceptions of submission, it really wouldn't seem worth it to me. First of all, a white man would be challenged by others in his culture concerning his pick, simply because she wasn't white. This may be gentle ribbing while hanging out with friends or awkward comments from family. Secondly, there are plenty of submissive white women out there who would like nothing better than to lick a man's boots in order to feel loved (Note to any feminists: this is not a bashing of your sex. There are men [this term is being used loosely] who act the same toward women).

So again I say, "What is the point?" Why do some people like a certain color or number? Why do some people like rainy days while others prefer the sunshine? Is it just a random coincidence? Or at some point in our lives did we associate that color or number or weather with something we enjoyed? Likewise, do we maintain a particular interest in a person of a particular ethnicity because of a past experience or relationship? Are we attracted by something new, or something old? Something familiar or different? Or both?